How To Talk Dirty Without Being Awkward

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I’ll walk you through the things to generally avoid, include, and steer clear of altogether, in order for you to dominate the world of dirty talk. Dirty talk is an often overlooked but very powerful aspect of increasing sexual tension. It activates the imagination, supercharges sexual polarity, and adds a steamy air of liberation to your naked shenanigans. What’s a deep desire of yours you want them to fulfill?

Dirty Talk Examples To Turn Your Partner On

Dirty talk, when done correctly, can be a huge turn-on. There’s nothing like hearing exactly what your partner wants to do to you and how they’d like to do it, or hearing them compliment you on your intimate bits. To learn more about the science of sex fantasies, check out my book Tell Me What You Want, now available in paperback.

Keep it simple and short

If you’re feeling nervous about saying things out loud, she recommends trying sexting first. “Describe what you’re looking forward to sexually or what you enjoyed about sex last time you connected. This is an easy way to ease into saying things out loud,” she says. If you’ve never engaged in dirty talk, it can feel uncomfortable and awkward.

Start by flirting with your partner

Which means that the dominant/submissive roles play themselves out in my dirty talk quite a bit. Once your mind has proof that they like it, and encourage you in expressing your dirty thoughts, you’ll feel much safer and comfortable to voice them in-person. And while you’re fooling around, give your partner real time feedback about what you’re enjoying. It’s a great way to encourage them to give you more of that thing, and also gives your sexual play the added edge of becoming more of a multi-sensory experience. Do not attempt to talk dirty to your partner if someone is about to walk in and disrupt you!

The timing is almost more important than what you actually say. If your partner is talking or doing something and you try to say something, it’ll go unheard. Talking dirty should come naturally, and if you try phrasing the words or hold thoughts back, you’d only end up feeling distracted in bed.

• You can do it before sex as foreplay or post-sex as aftercare.
• Dirty talk is an excellent prelude to sex (hi, hot foreplay!).
• Below you are going to find 91 different dirty things to say to your guy that will make sex a powerfully satisfying experience for both of you.
• Sure, if that’s the kind of verbal hanky-panky you and your partner have agreed on.

Obviously, you don’t want to do it so much that your partner gets bored of it. But doing it more and more will help you get a lot more comfortable with all the dirty phrases. If you just hone into your shyness, it could actually do you some good.